Pictured above: Laura Weldy, life coach and undeniable badass
Interview by: Tiana Lewis, Creator of Thetique
I think we can all agree that there are areas in our lives that we want to improve. Maybe you’re unsatisfied and unfulfilled with the nine-to-five corporate ladder you’ve been climbing. Maybe it’s less about your career and more about the fact that you haven’t met the one person with whom your soul really connects. Perhaps it’s neither or all of the above. I know that personally I’m always seeking out new ways to better areas in my life that I find are lacking. I read books that inspire and movies that dazzle me, but of all the things that I could do, one of my favorites is to talk to others. I think that you can learn so much from another’s experiences.
Enter Laura – life coach, creative being, and overall incredible human. Laura and I recently sat down at a favorite coffee shop to discuss everything from digging oneself out of a rut to setting aside intentional time to find inspiration, all in an effort to learn more about life coaching and how to unleash one’s inner badass. Take a peek inside our conversation below.
Thetique: Can you give the readers a brief description of what your day-to-day looks like as a life coach for those of us who don’t know or have never had experience with one?
Laura: Of course – day to day, I usually start by doing a very specific mindset practice in the morning. I take some time to get my body and my mind in the same place and make sure I’m entering my work day with a positive attitude. I spend some time identifying what I’m grateful for, what I’m excited about, and what I really need to accomplish that day. I try to do yoga every morning… it doesn’t always happen (laughs.) Then I spend the next couple of hours working in ebbs and flows. I’m a super creative person and I’m just finding that it’s unrealistic to expect myself to pump out creative content for eight hours in a row. So I tend to work a few hours on creating worksheets or creative resources for people that I coach with, or I’m on the phone one-on-one with my clients.
T: Can you tell me a bit more about that specific mindset practice?
L: I have never been a religious person really and ironically becoming an entrepreneur has made me much more spiritual than I was before. I’ve recognized now that the better I feel going into a day, the better my day turns out. So every morning I try to do something with my body, whether that’s go on a walk or do yoga. And then I try to meditate for about ten minutes and let whatever thoughts need to come through my head come through and be gone. Then I do this practice called the three by three, which I’ve adopted and has now become the four by three. What you do is write three things that you value about yourself, three things that you need to accomplish that day (even if the rest of your to do list isn’t tackled,) three things you’re grateful for, and three empowered beliefs that you can carry with you throughout your day. Doing all this allows me to return to a grateful mindset and really be open and receptive to what might be coming my way that day.
T: How did you get into life coaching? I feel like it’s a creative job that people don’t hear about often. Can you tell me a little bit more about your process to becoming one.
L: I feel like I fell into [life] coaching in a very serendipitous way, as if it were intended for me – whatever that may mean. Since I moved to Nashville, I was sort of hopping back and forth between jobs that were fun and with companies that I loved, but that weren’t fulfilling me or speaking to a deeper passion that I had. I also felt a lot of pressure to “find my passion,” and it was honestly stressing me out. So one day I was checking job listings and I saw a virtual assistant job for a life coach. Part of the description said that if I worked as an assistant, I would get life coaching for free. So I thought, “Great, I don’t know what life coaching is, but obviously I could use it if I can’t identify my passion (chuckles).” So I answered it and ended up loving the woman that I worked for. She was actually the one who encouraged me to go through training. Throughout that process, I learned life coaching is really just a melding pot of all my skills and abilities and the things that I really love. It gives me a chance to empower women, which I believe in very firmly, and call people out when they’re making excuses that are getting in the way of their own accomplishments. It’s also a great blend of creativity and strategy, which I love. So I kind of fell into it randomly, but I’m really excited to be here now.
T: What advice do you have for people who find themselves in a rut in life? Whether that’s with their career, with their love life, or really anything that life throws their way.
L: That’s a great question. I think that if you’re in a rut, the first thing is being okay with being in that rut. Identifying that you are there is huge. I think that a lot of people plow on without thinking about being in a rut because they don’t want to deal with it, but the longer you do that, the deeper you’re digging that hole. So being able to say, “I’m unhappy, but how do I actually want to feel and what would bring me closer to that goal” is huge. It’s all about baby steps, right? You don’t have to go from being in a rut one day to being on top of the world the next, but as long as you’re consistently making choices that make you feel better, you’re going to get out of the rut eventually.
I would also say talking to people is a big help. It doesn’t have to be a life coach, but talking to a really good friend or someone that is invested in you reaching your goals and living your best life is always going to be a good sounding board for you.
T: I like your response. It’s a practical and very real approach, something that a lot of people can do. That leads to my next question: what gets you inspired and what advice do you have for others that want to be inspired to get out of the rut and set/achieve clear goals?
L: I love learning. I’m an obsessive, life-long learner. So I listen to podcasts every day about topics that I don’t really know too much about. I try to read a book at all times, too. I’m reading about seven [different books] right now, so it may be a problem.
T: No, no. I really love that. What are some of your favorite books right now?
L: Good question – I’ve been reading the book Wanderlust: A Modern Yogi’s Guide To Becoming Your Best Self for a while now on and off, and I’m excited about it.
But to follow up on your last question, learning new things gets me really inspired. I’m also a very visual person, so I’m a big fan of vision boards. If you’ve never made one, I highly recommend it. Visually seeing something, whether it’s colors or specific things, really triggers an emotion in your brain. It quickly gets you back to that place you want to feel.
I would say that if you want to feel inspired, take some time to intentionally add moments of inspiration in your day. Whether that’s reading a blog during your lunch break or listening to a podcast while you’re working or doing a vision board party with your friends. Intentionally seeking out inspiration is not a bad thing. You don’t have to wait for it to strike. It’s always there. So the more of it that you can have, the better.
T: That’s great advice! As someone that continuously gives little pieces of advice like that, what is some of the best advice that you’ve ever received? And if it’s not advice, what’s something that you try to live your life by every single day?
L: There’s a couple of things. The quote that I’m always inspired by is: “Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs” by Farrah Gray. It really speaks to me. I don’t want to spend my 60, 70, 80+ years on this earth making someone else’s dreams possible. That keeps me really accountable to figuring out what I want next and how I can work toward it. There’s also this book called The Desire Map, which has been really influential in my life. It’s all about how you want to feel in your life and creating your environment based on those feelings.
I think the last is this idea of not taking on other people’s burdens. I think that when you work in the wellness world, you can work wih people that have very intense energy and feelings. Being able to cheer them on and support them without taking on the burden of worrying about them or taking on the responsibility for things to change for them is big. At the end of the day, I try to be very intentional of letting go of all ties, just to focus on my best self, too.
T: Your approach is centered around the concept of “life coaching for badass babes,” what do you think is one thing that all women could be doing to unleash more of their inner badass?
L: Mmm… (laughs) I love this question. I think that every woman is a badass, right? I mean… we just are. And every woman is a badass for different reasons. I think that one way to unleash that, especially if you’re not feeling super badass, is to remind yourself of who you are. That may sound very simple, but spend some time journaling or asking your friends to identify a few of the traits that people come to you for. Is it advice? Is it for support? Is it adventure? Fun? Figure it out and really celebrate that for a day. It’s all about valuing what you have and what you offer the world, and being cool with that being your unique brand of badass.
T: Do you think it’s possible for people to create the life they’ve always dreamed of and if so, what do you think is the first step to creating that life?
L: Yeah, I do. I don’t think it’s easy and I think some people are afraid of it not being easy, but it’s always there. The world is full of possibility. Everyone has a different dream and a different goal. Even if you want to be a photographer and you know that there are other photographers in the world, your approach to photography is going to be different than anyone else’s. There’s infinite possibility. I really believe that. You just have to have courage, and you have to have a wake-up moment. You have to realize that you’re not living your dream before you can create the dream that you want. It’s about identifying when you’re not reaching your potential and putting yourself in a position where you really can make that possible. Does that make sense?
T: That makes total sense! And that’s something that a lot people don’t realize they need to do – identify that they’re not living their dream first. Then also knowing what it is that they really do want to achieve.
L: Right. And it’s also about being flexible. If you, five years from now, decide that whatever your path was that you created isn’t right for you anymore, that’s totally fine. It takes courage, but it also takes flexibility and forgiveness of yourself. No decision you make is your final decision, you can always change your mind. So just do it! It doesn’t matter if you want to do something else in five years.
T: That’s so true! At the end of the day it’s your life. You have to wake up with it, you have to go to bed with it. Why not make it what you want? And like you said, if that changes, it’s totally okay. Finally, how can people get in touch with you if they want to embark on a session with you or just chat? Are there other ways to connect?
L: You can check me out online at lauraweldy.com. I know that life coaching is a new thing for a lot of people, so I always offer a free one-hour phone call. This is a good way for people to get their questions answered on whether what they’re going through is something that life coaching can help with. And [with this phone call] we can make a plan of action where, if you do decide that life coaching is right for you, we can talk through what you can expect to happen within those couple of months. Information is power.
I also have a Facebook group called “The Badass Society,” which I’m really excited about. It’s totally free and designed to be a resource for people that are new to life coaching and maybe not ready to hire a life coach on their own, but want to try to dip their toe into the coaching world and learn a little bit about it. I provide a ton of free resource there, so it’s a great way to get plugged in!
Hear more from Laura or book that free one-hour phone call through her website, lauraweldy.com!